How do you break down barriers to see progress in your goals? I’m giving you three powerful ways.
Perception is for the birds
What other’s think of you is none of your business. Let me repeat – none of your business!
That is such a powerful concept to live by and a great way to break down barriers to see progress. When you can stop worrying what others will think of you, you can truly live. One of the reasons we struggle with becoming who we were made to be is because we put too much stake into what others believe about us; aka their perception.
Perception is based on the eyes of the beholder. Perception is based on how we were raised, what we were taught and how our thoughts were shaped growing up. It is not reality; it is a belief.
Telling someone they’re great at something is based on what that person’s definition of great actually is. You can run a mile in 8 minutes and be the fastest ever to one person and then someone else can run a mile in 10 minutes and can be the fastest alive to another.
It’s all based on one’s experiences. This is like the whole “success” word. Success is defined by everyone differently.
I believe living in others’ perception will hold us back more in our life than anything else. It imposes others’ beliefs onto our own, even if we don’t feel that way about ourselves. See the vicious cycle?
If you’re willing to put other people in the driver’s seat of your life, you better be ready for them to take the wheel and drive you to their destination, not yours.
Who are you trying to please?
Making decisions is at the core of everything we do, no matter how big or how small.
While it’s important to gather all the possible data and revisit your anchors while making a decision, it is equally important to not make decisions based on what other’s opinions are. You won’t be able to break down barriers to see progress in your goals if you’re constantly trying to please others, I know from experience!
You cannot make decisions based off of someone else’s agenda or it will only end up leaving you feeling frustrated and unhappy with the outcome. This can be a very dangerous and detrimental way to live. It can also prohibit you from becoming who you were made to be.
The key is to have love and confidence in yourself, which will not require you to do things based on others. Self-worth will guide you further than anyone else can for you.
You don’t need other’s approval when it comes down to making every little decision on the path to becoming who you were made to be. Get comfortable being happy alone and making decisions alone.
Rely on those around you that have your best interest at heart to provide their input, but ultimately you need to make the decision, no one else is living your life but you.
Your emotions are your superpowers, use them to break down barriers to see progress
Sounds funny, I know, but hear me out on this one. What makes you emotional? Whether it be mad, sad, anxious, etc.
I’m sure when I ask that you immediately can name a few things that come to mind. The same things that anger you will drive you to push harder to living the life you were made to live.
I believe that emotions can often be confused with passion. I’m not talking those moments when we hurt ourselves or others for some stupid reason, but the moments we get angry when something doesn’t work out in the way we had hoped for it to work out.
Let’s look at anger as an example. It can be an incredible tool for breaking through barriers to get ahead.
Think about athletes, let’s use football players in this example. In the moments before they take the field before a game what do you think they’re doing? They’re not reading books, they’re not playing cards or standing around gracefully hugging each other, they’re getting pumped up, aka angry.
They know they have to face their opponent and perform at a higher level to achieve a win. By the time they rush the field you can see the anger, aka passion, in their moves, and I love that.
The same rings true for the things you will do to become who you were made to be. You must be relentless and use your emotions in a positive way to never settle for less.
Often times when we get emotional over someone else’s behavior it’s because of something we believe about ourselves.
We have these feelings towards whatever the situation is that occurred because we know we would not handle it the same way if it were in our hands. So go ahead and get emotional when you need to, but do it with intention.
Remember to stay consistent when it comes to seeing progress in your goals. I you can consistently practice breaking down these barriers you’re already way ahead of the game!
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